Do us a favor, do not use it.
After jumping through many, many layers of bureaucracy, I finally settled here with my partner six months ago. You could be in need of inspiration for conversation, best to go to bars with plenty of atmosphere. That will clear up allot of things in regards to your expirience. The Shallow Man, formerly of London, and for over nine years, resident in Amsterdam, has become something of an expert in navigating the choppy and touchy waters of intercultural relationships with the Dutch.