He was willing to convert. No jew is supposed to try to convert another person, not try to get a boyfriend or fiancee to do it for them. Is this a justification for sticking to non-Jewish men?
I get the impression that it is a lot harder for Jewish people to date today than it was years ago. Why would an intelligent girl do that to herself, or worse, to the person she says she cares about?! This is called in Hebrew the "zivig" and in Yiddish, the "bashert". And when hormones come a'calling, you do what you have always done--you please the beast.